I’ve recently met two rather
incredible, smart, and very insightful new friends that have really helped me
think through something I’ve been struggling with for quite some time; namely,
the drive for perfection in an otherwise imperfect world. While a lot has been
written about perfectionists or Type-A personalities, I’ve seen very little
written about it in regards to nutrition.
I’ve always been pretty
demanding and typically hold myself to pretty high standards. Unfortunately,
this blog is often reflective of that. My one friend semi-jokingly calls me
“the robot” as a way of pointing out my rigidness, and while having tea with my
friend Gena, I came to realize that I’ve become entrenched in the “diet wars”
and have become so dogmatic in regards to nutrition that I sometimes am unable
to remember why I began writing this blog in the first place.
The reason why I write this blog is not to bicker about how many nuts should be consumed in a sitting or any of the other semantics that nutrition bloggers often get bogged down with. Instead I write this blog because I’ve learned a lot about nutrition and want to share that research-based knowledge in an attempt to help people find their own paths to healing and long-term health. Long time readers have been able to watch many of my thoughts about nutrition evolve over that time - particularly when it comes to oil. However, the one thing that consistently bothers me is that my posts are often written from the perspective that the world is black or white, with nothing in between when nothing could be further from the truth in regards to nutrition.
Before I continue, I need to
be completely clear. I am an ethical vegan (which is why I have never backed
away from using the term) regardless of nutrition, I do not support or
condone any use or exploitation of any animals in any situation.
That said, nutrition is often
very complex and works in highly sophisticated ways, many of which researchers
are just now starting to chart. The world is even more complex and our daily
lives are nothing if not the same.
To assume that the path that
worked for me will work for everyone is a foolish errand. To be dogmatic about
it will accomplish nothing. Furthermore sometimes optimal health and our lives
stand simply at odds with one another… and that is okay.
It’s okay to skip out on the
ideal 8-10 hours of sleep once in a while to spend time with friends and family,
enjoying a sweet treat on occasion has, to my knowledge, never killed anyone,
and if you prefer iceberg
over kale
or collards you won’t be the less healthy for it. Basically what I’m trying
to say is, if eating less-than-optimal means less stress, then maybe that’s the
right thing to do. As my friend Maria has taught me, what’s the point of living
to be 100 if you’ve missed out on some of the best parts of life?
Now I’m not saying that
cookies and cakes are the best parts of life – in fact, far from it, and
personally I probably won’t change my own rather rigid habits – but if you’re
moderately healthy, and are trying to move towards a healthier version of
yourself, it’s okay to not always be perfect. Being hard on yourself or feeling
guilty about what you’ve been eating is almost never a healthy or even
productive habit.
Instead, enjoy the moment. Food, like life should be enjoyed
and is always better when in good company. If you feel like you want to eat
healthier then focus on learning from the mistakes rather than punishing
yourself for them. Focus your energy away from being negative; instead be
positive and spend your energy on making sustainable changes. If eating
optimally means you feel completely deprived and depressed, than you’re hardly
developing healthy or sustainable habits. Being healthy is to enjoy life, and
sometimes that means doing something inherently unhealthy. As the book of Ecclesiastes Dave
Matthews says, “Eat, drink and be merry. For tomorrow we die.”
As always the information presented in this blog is for educational purposes only. It should not be considered as specific medical, nutritional, lifestyle, or other health-related advice.